ACC & Moms-To-Be Story #15 - Twins!

I am incredibly thankful to all of the Moms and Dads who want to tell their story about being pregnant and having a baby with Agenesis of the Corpus Callosum.

Every story is as unique as each child who has ACC.

Just a few days after posting the last ACC Pregnancy Story #14 by Mum Susan in Canberra Australia, I was contacted by Kate, another Mum in Australia, who expressed an interest in sharing her own ACC pregnancy story -- about having ♥ TWINS ♥

In her own words, in an e-mail to me, (shared here with her permission), Kate wrote:

"I have twins and my daughter was diagnosed with ACC at one of our pre-natal scans! Our son is ok.

I have read alot about this and so far haven't found any stories/Information relating to ACC children who have a twin, therefore if possible would like to share my story."

I am thrilled that Kate contacted me and am so very grateful to be able to include Kate's ACC Pregnancy Story here.

I truly believe that every story told will ultimately reach out and touch the life of someone else in very special, very amazing ways.

Kate, thank you very much. It is a privilege and an absolute honor to be able to post your story here on the blog for others to read. I would like to extend my gratitude to you from my heart for your willingness to express your pregnancy story in words (and pictures) and for your desire to reach out to other families and offer hope.

Written by Kate

My story starts with our struggle to get pregnant. After a year of unsuccessful trying my husband and I started IVF. We found that our struggle was due to my having blocked tubes and a ‘balanced translocation’ (chromosome abnormality) which meant that only 2 out of every 16 of my eggs would be genetically sound enough to grow into a baby. We went through a number of IVF (In Vitro Fertilisation) cycles but unfortunately all of my eggs through these cycles were unbalanced and therefore unable to be used. This was the hardest thing that I have had to go through and the most emotionally draining. Knowing that we were not able to use my eggs, made me feel like a bit of a failure and it took me a while to get used to the idea of egg donation. However, at the end of the day, I realised that DNA doesn’t make you a parent, the everlasting love you feel for your child is what makes you a parent. On our first cycle using the donor eggs we found out we were pregnant with twins.

Twins was something we knew was a possibility, but after such a hard road in trying to have a baby to hear we were having two babies was just amazing. The first 5 months of the pregnancy were great, no morning sickness and I was feeling good. At our 20 week scan we found out we were having a boy and a girl, we were so excited and felt so lucky to be having one of each. Unfortunately, the excitement ended there when we were then told that something appeared to be wrong with our little girl. The doctor told us that he could not see her corpus callosum on the scan. He advised us that it seemed that she had complete agenesis of the corpus callosum (ACC). He explained that there were a number of different outcomes that we could face, ranging from this being an isolated abnormality and our daughter being mostly fine, right through to severe retardation resulting from a number of potentially associated syndromes of ACC. My heart sank and all I could do was cry and think about my little girl’s future. Thankfully our son seemed to be okay from the scan. It’s every expectant parent’s worst nightmare to hear that something could be wrong with their child. The doctor gave us the option to terminate, but to us that was definately not an option for a number of reasons. For one, she was a twin and if we were to terminate her, that would potentially endanger the life of her twin brother as well. Secondly, how could we possibly terminate a child based on the unknown, when from the scan she seemed to be developing normally with two arms and two legs and normal head size, seeming to not look like she had any other syndromes. There was no way we could terminate when we just had no idea how she would be.

The doctor sent us away with a referral for a fetal MRI and told us not to google any information on ACC as a lot of the information out there painted some of the worst case scenarios. My husband works in the medical profession and therefore was able to google for me and put it into context, pulling out the useful information so that I could get my head around what we could be facing. The best way he could describe it from what he read was that our daughter was missing the “main super-highway of nerves” between the left and right side of her brain, meaning for her to get communication from left to right brain and vice versa, she would need to use the slower “backstreet” nerve connections. Using these slower “backstreet” nerves instead of having a “super-highway”, it may take her a little longer for her to undertake actions requiring left and right brain conduction, but she will get there in the end. Everything else we read lead to the unknown of “maybe’s” and that was the hardest part.

At 22 weeks we went for the fetal MRI and that confirmed the diagnosis. Although we knew what the results would show, hearing it confirmed was heartbreaking and reaffirmed the potential challenges ahead. The fetal MRI also showed that our daughter had enlarged cerebral ventricles (ventriculomegaly) which in a normal brain can be bad and a sign of hydrocephalus, more cause for worry on my part. However, having my husband understand everything being told to us and being able to explain it to me in a way I would understand was comforting. We had another fetal MRI at 33 weeks and a number of other doctor appointments and scans to keep an eye on her progress.

At 36 weeks Noah & Tahlia were born, I was nervous and excited. On the one hand I wanted for them to be born so I could meet them and see how Tahlia was, but on the other hand I wanted to keep her inside where I could protect her. So many things running through my head, but I had nothing to be nervous about, they were perfect, everything we could have wished for. Tahlia did not have any problems after being born as a result of having ACC. She scored a 9/10 on her Apgar tests, and passed her hearing test on day 4.

Tahlia & Noah soon after birth (Tahlia is at the back of the photo)

2 Days Old (Noah in Blue, Tahlia in Purple)

When Tahlia was 2 days old, she was taken for an ultrasound of her head and what we originally saw in the MRI of ventriculomegaly, turned out to be a perfectly acceptable result because of the increased space in a brain with the absence of the corpus callosum. She and Noah stayed in hospital for 2 weeks due to the fact that they were preemies. At the beginning they were both tube fed as they were born early. Once we managed to get them onto all suck feeds (some breast, some bottle) and they received the all clear from the paediatrician we were able to bring our little bundles home.

Since birth, we have been observing Tahlia’s growth and progress. Our expectations have been quite broad because of the “unknown” factor you get from everything you read on ACC. We have had regular paediatric specialist reviews, including a paediatric neurologist, as well as initial and ongoing assessments from occupational therapists and physiotherapists, recommended to us because the impact of ACC on developmental milestones.

Noah and Tahlia sitting by themselves at 7 months

Now 2 weeks away from their 1st birthday, Tahlia is doing great and we couldn’t ask for anything more. She has met all her milestones so far and has only been within 2-4 weeks of her brother. She is crawling, cruising, talking (as much as a 12 month old talks anyway), and has just started standing by herself. The look she gets on her face when she has done something by herself just melts your heart. She is so proud of herself and so are we. She has adjusted to finger food well and has loved everything we have given her. She is able to pick up toys with no trouble and passes them from hand to hand well. All in all, she is doing everything a normal 12 month old should be. We are so lucky and grateful that she is doing so well, as we know that things could have turned out differently.

Tahlia at 11 months standing by herself

We are not sure whether having a twin brother has helped Tahlia anymore then if she wasn’t a twin, but we feel having a twin brother has been a blessing for her. She looks at Noah and whenever he does something you can see the concentration in her face thinking “I want to do that too”. She watches everything he does and when he does something new it normally doesn’t take too long before she is trying it too. Having a twin brother is probably the best therapy Tahlia can have at the moment. Having Noah there as a “control” has been helpful for us too. However, I must admit that there are times when Tahlia will do something differently than Noah, for example pushing her bottle out of her mouth rather then pulling it in to drink, and I’ll think “Is she doing this because of the ACC?” But then I think that’s just me over thinking things, all babies are different. As well, there are slight differences in development between boys and girls. Seeing Tahlia start to interact with Noah and play games with him is so nice to watch. To us she is just as normal as her brother and if we didn’t know about the ACC, you wouldn’t think that anything was wrong with her.

9 Months Old

Partners in Crime

Tahlia continues to see a physio once a month, not because anything is wrong but so we are able to stay on top of her progress. Every time we go to see the physio she gives us new things to try for Tahlia and to her surprise Tahlia is already doing a lot of those things. Both the physio and doctors are really happy with how she is going. Having said that we know that just because she is doing well now, doesn’t mean she won’t need a bit of extra attention in the future. But for the time being we are taking things one day at a time and just enjoying our twins and watching them grow.

All of these stories gave me hope when Tahlia was first diagnosed, so I hope my story is able to do the same for other families facing similar situations. I want to finish my story with this quote. Any parent that has a child with a disability or health issues will understand how true this is...

“Children with disabilities are like butterflies with a broken wing. They are just as beautiful as all others but they just need a little help to spread their wings."

Kate
Mum of Tahlia and Noah (twins)
Gold Coast in Queensland, Australia
11 July 2012

If you would like to get in touch with Kate, you can contact her through e-mail:
kate.raftery@hotmail.com

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